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How to use this poem to become that perfect parent?

I encourage you to pick up Dorothy Law Nolte's book by the same title from Amazon.com. Each line of the poem is covered as individual chapters in which she explains in readable stories and anecdotes how to put them into practice. My value-added is using NaviMap^TM analysis to show where the most critical areas are so that you can increase your chance of success.

If you are so stressed and harrassed, and you can only do one thing for your child, then make sure he doesn't suffer from being ridiculed. The other negative behaviors are not as vicious at damaging a child's personality as this one. Ridicule exaggerates the evil in an environment of criticism, hostility and shame such that it is impossible to make any improvements in the other areas. Therefore it must be dealt wiith first.

Two virtues support all other virtues. Train a child to develop the good habits that would gain approval of parents. This is the starting point for developing self-esteem. In this way, the child will begin to develop emotional security and self-confidence. He will grow to have faith in the future and all the other virtuous cycles of virtues become much easier to nurture.

Important Note: The above conclusions were derived from NaviMap^TM analysis of the poem, "Children Learn What They Live". Interested readers may download them as pdf files.

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Children Learn What They Live
by Dorothy Law Nolte

If a child lives with criticism,
he learns to condemn.

If a child lives with hostility,
he learns to fight.

If a child lives with ridicule,
he learns to be shy.

If a child lives with shame,
he learns to feel guilty.

If a child lives with tolerance,
he learns to be patient.

If a child lives with encouragement,
he learns confidence.

If a child lives with praise,
he learns to appreciate.

If a child lives with fairness,
he learns justice.

If a child lives with security,
he learns to have faith.

If a child lives with acceptance and friendship, he learns to find love in the world.